Faith, Remembering Truth

Remembering Joy


“So we’re having another baby, wow.”

I’ve spent the last few months echoing those words to myself. I think I still can’t believe it but it probably will hit me during labor, that’s for sure.  Don’t get me wrong, we wanted another baby, just not sure about the timing. I guess I’ll explain, in the last year Ruben and I have spent a lot of time growing our marriage. We’re pretty honest about where we’ve been these last four and a half years, it’s been hard. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that God has allowed us to bear children in some of the hardest years of our marriage. Our children are symbols of us fighting to love and enjoy one another. They remind us that God thinks of us in seasons when we feel most forgotten.

At the beginning of this year, Ruben and I made the decision that leaving his job would bring him some joy after stepping away from being a leader in our church. Our marriage wasn’t in a good place and taking on more responsibilities would have probably broken our family even more. My mental health and childhood trauma has played a big role in our struggles, therapy has given us the opportunity to find answers, and perhaps the hope we’ve been wanting to hear. Marriage is no walk in the park, especially when you add two broken people into it. As I’ve spent the year healing and seeking help, Ruben spent the year picking up the responsibilities at home while also grieving his own losses. We will say this, his love for art has been awakened during this time and it’s shown it.

My husband is the most wonderful man I’ve ever met and as we’ve spent time in conversations and seeking help I have never been more certain that God desired these last few years to be this way.

So where did baby number two fall in?

Well, it surely came during some really good months this year. This time around I didn’t cry in the bathroom like I did with Calvin’s pregnancy, I laughed. I share all the time that when I found out I was pregnant with Calvin, God spoke to me through Psalm 30 but the verse that stood with me was “Weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning”. I wept as I read that Psalm because I felt like I had been crying for years and asking God to bring me joy not only to myself but to my marriage. I hold that Psalm so close to my heart because I believe that God has more for Ruben and I. Surely, He has given us more this year. It’s not that joy would be found in our children but that joy would enter our hearts through God.

Our second baby brings forth a promise that God has given us but also one that Ruben and I have given to each other. We will spend the rest of our lives fighting for the joy that God delights in giving us. As I birth life from my body, God is doing the same in both of us. He is healing and restoring the broken parts of each other. For me He is stripping me away of pains and scars that I’ve held on too and although we aren’t fully healed here on earth, I await the day I will be mentally, physically, and emotionally healed in eternity.

We’re excited and head over heels for this new baby. We can’t imagine what life will look like with a fourth member in our family, it is crazy if I get another boy. ha! So where are we now… well, being home during quarantine has drawn all three of us so much closer. Ruben and I have grown in so much more love and surely Calvin feels it. We finished marriage counseling and I restarted my own therapy. I pray to welcome this new baby into a home that overflows with love and grace. I hope that God never stops growing our family however that looks like and I only desire to remember that healing and joy always come.

I hope God meets you in whatever season you’re in, hope and joy are near. 


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  • Reply Julissa

    After every post I read I think “woah this is my favorite post so far” and this new post really is my favorite thus far 😅. Seriously though, what vulnerability and great reminder that God is near, He is working, healing and making all things new.

    July 2, 2020 at 11:40 am
    • Reply Caroline

      This is such a beautiful reflection and perspective of how this new pregnancy has touched your family. Motherhood is a miraculous journey but, being a wife and a woman all at the same time is even greater. Its beautiful when something heaven sent can aid in strengthening the love and relationship within a family. I love that you share your story so genuinely, because it helps a lot of us to understand that it’s ok for things to not always be fairy tale perfect because that’s not realistic. Your courage to share, inspires others to also seek the help that they may need in order to heal and become better individuals for the sake of their family.

      July 3, 2020 at 4:23 pm
      • Reply Transparent City Mama

        Thank you! 😭 God has done big things in our family and continues to do so. We only hope to share all that he’s done for his glory and to tell others that He is near to our brokenness and he’s mending.

        July 3, 2020 at 8:15 pm
    • Reply Transparent City Mama

      I love you.

      July 3, 2020 at 8:15 pm

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