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    Potty Training a Two-year-old

    It’s been about a week since we started this journey, but we really started back in December. The idea of potty training sounded scary to me. The last thing I wanted was to find poop on my couch and have to clean up watery “accidents”. The first time around was hard because Calvin wasn’t able to really identify when he wanted to go, he didn’t want to wear any undies and would fight us to sit on the potty. Our busy schedules kept us from being consistent and then life hit us and pull up’s seemed easier at the time.  So here we are again, but this time we’re ready!! Here are a few things I found helpful for my 2-year-old.


    Asking for Tips

    As a first-time mom and still learning how to navigate through it, I leaned on my Instagram mamas for some help. I got a lot of tips from different parents and it was very helpful.

    I also read different articles on potty training and looked up a few books. One book I came across was called Oh Crap! Potty Training,

    Many parents suggested it but reading a book was just not something I had time for, but if you love reading definitely check out this book.

    These are some of the articles I found helpful:

    1. Potty Training: How to get started
    2. Potty Training 101

    Methods? – This was on “Today’s Parents” 

    I had no idea there were different methods to potty training. Back in December we definitely were doing the “slow and steady” method. I wasn’t in a rush and I didn’t want to push him if he was still showing signs of not knowing when to go. This second round we definitely aimed for the “three-day method and “rewards.” Calvin showed all the signs of being ready and by day three he was fully going to the bathroom. This method also worked since we’re stuck at home during quarantine.

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    Is he or she ready? 

    Here are a few signs that told me Calvin’s was ready to be potty trained:

    • He started to take off his diaper and was uncomfortable being wet.
    • He would make fascial expressions when he had to pee or poop.
    • He could stay dry for at least two hours and his diapers during nap time were usually dry.
    • He enjoyed watching me sit on the toilet and flushing.
    • He could sometimes tell when he had to pee.

    Potty Training 101 
    Things we did to prepare ourselves for this process:
    •  Creating a habit takes time and sacrifice, we mentally prepared ourselves for adjusting our schedules at home and cleaning up “accidents”.
    • We bought tons of undies of his favorite characters. (This really helped motivate him)
    • The Potty Chart has been the game-changer in this process. You can create one or get one from Pinterest. Kids love stickers and rewards.
    • We were gifted a potty to have around the house but also got a potty seat for the toilet. I think having both is worth it because it can help you identify which one makes your child feel more comfortable. Calvin chooses the potty seat.
    • Setting a timer to remind Calvin every 20-30 mins to use the potty. We did this for the first two days. ( As the days go by, extend the reminder time) 
    • Since we’re not going anywhere, being home has helped train him. I would advise that you stay home three days while potty training your toddler.
    • Be patient and have a celebrating attitude. The accidents can be annoying, especially if they pee two minutes after you asked him or her if they needed to go. ha!
    • Every child is different, some kids can do it in three days and others take a week to be potty trained. Enjoy the process, this is a big milestone for your child.

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    Our Potty Training Day to Day 

    Day 1: Went 5 times to the potty, no poop, no accidents.

    • The day before we read a book on potty training with him. ( Disney Pull Up’s book)
    • Set up the bathroom area with wipes, undies, and hanged “Potty Chart” and stickers.
    • Took him to the bathroom once he got up and changed from Pull up’s to Undies.
    • Introduced him to the chart and wipes.
    • Taught him how to clean himself.
    • Let him choose which undies he wanted to wear throughout the day.
    • Asked him if he wanted to go potty every 30 minutes.
    • I paid attention to his facial and body movements in order to help him identify when he had to go.
    • Celebrated him loudly and many high fives. ( MUST DO!)
    • Got a sticker every time he went to the potty and when he hits the yellow spots he got a cookie. ( This is great for teaching positive reinforcement and also learning he can’t get something every time he does something well.)
    • He had no accidents.
    • Napped and went to bed in Pull up’s.

    Day 2:  Went 4 times to the potty, no poop, 1 accident.

    • Took him to the potty once he got up and changed into undies.
    • Reminded him every 1 hour, this increased the times he told us on his own.
    • He showed a lot more excitement to use the potty.
    • Continue celebrating him together in the bathroom.
    • Got a sticker for each time he went and a cookie on the yellow spot.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 3: Went 6 times, Pooped twice, and 2 accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • Officially says when he has to go pee and poop.
    • Pooped for the first time in the toilet.
    • I continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 4: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Finished the first chart and earn a prize, a monster truck.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 5: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • Created a second chart, this chart has less yellow spots. ( Teaching him to enjoy going to the potty, not for a treat)
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap and woke up dry.
    • I took him to the bathroom right after nap time.
    • We went for a walk with undies for about 15 mins.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    Day 6: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap time and woke up dry.
    • Took him to the potty right after nap time.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    Day 7: 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap time and woke up dry.
    • Took him to the potty right after nap time.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    *As you can see, progress was made as the days went by. 

    *The latest update is that he’s been waking up at 4 am to use the bathroom, I heard this is a good sign to removing diapers at night. However, he still has a wet diaper.


    Potty Set Up

    Being consistent with your set up is also key in my opinion. It helps your toddler recognize his or her area and also gives them the independence to go when they want. If you’re using a portable potty, place it somewhere in the house that they can see it. Have some wipes and undies next to it, it might encourage them to go on their own. 

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    Our Set -up: Wipes, Potty seat (should always remain on the toilet), Stool for getting up, and “potty chart” hanging on the wall. 


    Potty Training Items 

    Here are some items I found to be essential for potty training our son. You may find them helpful too if you’re wondering what to get for your toddler during this milestone.

     

    1. Potty Book: We used another book but this book is pretty cute. Many parents recommended reading a “potty” book when starting this process. Also, Youtube has tons of videos. ( Here’s our favorite)
    2. Portable Potty: Many toddlers enjoy portable potty’s and parents find it easier to have around the house instead of running to the bathroom always.
    3. Potty Seat: While other toddlers enjoy the portable potty, some don’t. Calvin didn’t. So the potty seat was perfect for him and it’s way softer on his butt.
    4. Potty Chart: We created our and just filled it with Calvin’s face stickers. You can find on on Pinterest.
    5. Favorite Undies: Calvin is loving “Lighting McQueen” so we got him a few undies or McQueen and his other favorites of “Toy Story.”
    6. Stool: The stool is for helping them sit independently on the toilet. Some toilet potty’s come with steps already attached.
    7. Travel Potty Seat: These are definitely needed when traveling with a toddler elsewhere. If your boy toddler can pee standing up, no need but may need it to poop. Need a potty seat for a road trip? Here’s one.

    Out and about with a potty training toddler? 

    • Pack extra clothes and undies.
    • Bring your travel potty seat.
    • Use the potty as soon as you get to where you have to go.
    • Be patient with the accidents.

     

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    Mother’s Day Gift Guide

    I’ve been so excited for May! One, I have a lot to share and two, I wanted this month to be filled with excitement and encouragement. I haven’t been on here for a while but with good reason. I’ll share that later this month.

    However, Mother’s Day is almost here ( May 10th) and it won’t be just any regular day. Chances are you’ll be celebrating at home and if it’s your first Mother’s Day, I hope it’s special.

    I’ve created a gift guide of some of my favorite mama things and hopefully, you’ll share it with your lover to give him some ideas or maybe send a gift to a friend.

    I love everything on here, either I’ve used it or it’s on my ” I want list “.

    1. Made By Mary: I love custom jewelry and actually own three of their necklaces.

    2. Keurig Machine: I’m not much of a coffee lover, but I know mamas love coffee. I found this cute coffee machine at target and the price seemed okay.

    3. Agust & Amber: I own so many earrings from this brand. I just love everything about them and they’re homemade by a mama & daughter.

    4. Wine Cup: Every mama needs this cup. Put your wine in there, take a sip and try to make it at home with the wild kids.

    5. Fujifilm Cam: I love polaroid cameras! I use them for all special occasions.

    6. Comfy Pajamas: Yup! We all need them! But this pair is my favorite! Plus it comes with a silk eye mask!

    7. Slippers: these should be officially fashionable mom slippers! How cute are they!

    8. Beauty Kit : I saw this kit on the Target website and I just knew I needed to get it! I love that it has a mini facial roller. Plus, it’s $7.59!

    9. Art Piece : I love decorating my home with prints! And this artist has a lot of heat on his website! Make sure to follow Art by Dario

    10. Mug: You can never go wrong with getting a mom a mug. I personally love them.

    11. Hair Dryer: This is one of my favorites! I use it all the time and get my hair straightened in less than 20mins. That’s probably including the number of times I have to keep my toddler out of the room. lol

    12. Plant: I recently made my first plant purchase and I can’t tell you how excited I am. This shop has so many beauties and you can get them delivered to your home!

    13. Book: Good Moms: this book is truly a gift for any mom. It’s filled with encouragement and support. It’s definitely a top choice for me.

    14. Glow Mask: This mask just smells so good and my face feels fresh every-time.

    Have a Happy Mother’s Day Mama, you deserve it! 

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    Feeling Unpretty

    Feeling Unpretty?

    During Mother’s Day weekend I wrestled with getting ready to go to my mother’s day brunch that my husband had planned for me. I spent two hours going back and forth between my room and closet, and two additional hours trying on clothes in front of the mirror and taking them right off. I could feel my mood beginning to change.

    What about my body was affecting the way I was feeling? Why was I letting some baby weight get in the way of a day meant to celebrate me? I was becoming easily irritated, emotionally overwhelmed and the more I changed the more sensitive I became. My husband kept coming into the room wondering what was taking me so long. I don’t remember if he said anything but every time he made a remark about my outfit I felt as though it was negative- and that was enough to set me off and cause me to change.

    On top of feeling insecure with my own thoughts, my mother came to visit and I nervously anticipated an insensitive remark from her about my body. She’d probably wonder if I’ve been wearing the underwear she gave me after I gave birth to keep my stomach from bloating or maybe I’ve lost myself in the transition to being a mother.

    What I was staring at in the mirror were extra layers around my body that didn’t disappear after giving birth. My face looked more tired than ever, and my breasts are not what they used to be. For some reason, I felt more comfortable in my pregnancy body because I could hide behind the baby belly.

    Like who would dare shame a pregnant woman? I could wear whatever I wanted and still feel beautiful. I could walk with confidence because life was growing in me and that ” glow ” that I had because “ I was having a boy” (according to “baby experts”) brought me more attention and compliments then the natural face I tend to wear. Of course, I would feel more beautiful in that skin then the one I’m in now!

    The skin I’m in today is unfamiliar, unwanted, and unpretty. The clothes that once fit me feel strange to my body,- did they ever really fit? I can’t remember, I have forgotten what it feels like to wear anything that is fit for me.

    As I wrestled with these thoughts, I was reminded of a few words I shared before about my postpartum body. “Nothing about my body is the same and it’s even more beautiful,” these are the words I’ve been lacking in speaking over my thoughts and heart every time I lose it in front of a mirror. Those are my words, the ones that remind me of the changes my life has experienced, and the beauty I hold before me, not only in my son but in the new me. The mother in me.

    Has someone told you that you look beautiful lately? If they haven’t, I want to remind you that yes, nothing about your Postpartum body is familiar to you- and it’s even more beautiful now than ever before. Whether you’ve gained weight or lost weight, we’re so inclined to pay attention to the parts of us that we long to have again that we lose sight of the beauty before us. God says you are beautiful before his sight, no matter what sight you see before you. I hope that on days that we feel like crap; when our pants can’t seem to fit, and we feel unattractive that we would remember that we have not lost ourselves by being mothers. We’ve gained so much more than just weight, we’ve gained LIFE.

    Thanks, @true&co for reminding me of my own words and building a community for women to embrace their bodies. This company has wonderful undergarments that I own like three of their bras. 

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    Reflecting on Jesus’s Last Words

        This Friday we gathered to reflect on Jesus’s last words before he died on the cross. I always find it funny that we call this day ” Good Friday”, how is it a good day? like hello… Jesus dies! ha. But we know it doesn’t end with him dying. So many things happen as he hung on the cross and He had a few words to say. Our church always honors His last words by having people reflect on his seven final words. I presented a piece from His forth saying “My God, My God, why have you forsaken?” Those words express abandonment, a feeling I have felt way too many times by God. This saying comforts me because it reminds me that Jesus knows what it means to feel forsaken and it also reminds me that God abandoned Jesus on the cross for that moment, just so that I would never feel forsaken by Him.

    Many theologians say that when Jesus cries out the words My God, My God, why have you forsaken?” it is in that very moment that all of the sins of the world and wrath meant for us came upon Him, which means that at that moment He was separated from God. How crazy is that? God abandon His holy and perfect son for imperfect and unholy people like you and I. In Jesus being forsaken, We are accepted. I pray you may know that God is inviting you into his mercy and love. He is calling for you.

    Here is my reflection:

    Mark 15:33-34

    And when the sixth hour had come, there was darkness over the whole land until the ninth hour. And at the ninth hour, Jesus cried with a loud voice, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

    (God was silent)

    That is the cry of my life.

    In the footsteps of my home where I patiently waited for my father but he wouldn’t show. “ My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answered me.

    It is in the memories of that touch underneath my garment as a young girl that my heart cries “My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answers me.

    It was at the end of my broken relationship that I cried “ My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answered me.

    It was in the hardest moments of my marriage that I’ve cried “ My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answered me.

    It was in the complicated circumstances of my son’s birth that I cried “ My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answered me.

    It is in my anxiety and depression that I cry “ My God, my God, Why have you forsaken me?”

    But He answers me.

    For God’s silence towards His holy Son was so that I may never feel forsaken by Him.

    His cry leads to my acceptance.