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    Transforming a Bronx Bedroom into your dream Nursery

    As I prepare to celebrate Calvin’s 3rd birthday this Wednesday, I can’t help but remember what the days looked like leading up to his birth. Our one-bedroom Bronx apartment was a small and mess, we also had celebrated our baby shower days before giving birth. Everything was everywhere! The crib wasn’t built and whatever vision I had in mind for a nursery quickly faded for two reasons, Calvin was seven weeks early and our apartment was way too small to dream big.

    Photographer: https://www.instagram.com/bee.serene/

    This second time around being blessed with a full-term pregnancy and also spending a lot of time at home, I let my heart guide my creativity. If there’s one thing I’ve been fighting off these last few months, it’s been discouragement of any kind.

    After losing one of our best friends, I entered into a place of mourning and I found myself needing an escape. So I began looking for inspiration on nursery’s and a painted sun caught my attention. It warmed my heart and was a sweet reminder of the ray of sunshine our friend Ada was. I haven’t been able to fully connect with our second son and transforming our bedroom gave me a chance to connect with him. The details of this nursery have brought my heart so much joy and hope. I’m sure my son will display it.

    Room Details: Baby moblie, DockaTOT, Babyletto Crib,

    Here is the reveal of our small section nursery. Although we live in a two-bedroom, we wanted the baby to stay with us. So we got some paint and divided a small space of it so it’s just for the baby. I also want to encourage any mama that is a one-bedroom apartment. Please don’t let your bedroom discourage you from being creative with your space. I hear so many stories of mamas feeling guilty over not having a “perfect nursery” or a spare room for their baby, I want you to know your baby doesn’t care about that. You are their first home and nursery.

    Details: Wood Camera, Hamilton Frame, Acrylic Floating Wall 

    I picked out pieces for the baby that I love. I love taking pictures and Hamilton. My favorite song is ” Dear Theodosia”, I dedicated that song to Calvin before he was born. I had my husband print some of the lyrics on these wooden frames from Society.6, I hope to read them to the boys one day.

    Details: New York Banner, Wall Wooden Rack, Acrylic Shelf

    Room Details: Rocking Chair, Diaper Pail,

    Room Detail: Cube Storage, Fawn Design Bag, Curtain’s

    I love everything about this section. I wanted the colors to go with the ones we’re using for Calvin’s big boy room. We’re reusing the crib we got for Calvin, it’s really cute and it’s held on for three years. This time around we will be using cube storage bins to store the baby’s clothes. We wanted to save money and we honestly don’t need much storage for the baby. The most expensive piece we got was the rocking chair. I would never pay what I did for this chair, but it’s so comfy and eventually, we want it for our living room.

    Details: Family Poster, Wood Hanger

    Room Detail: Gathre Changing Pad, Wipes & Diaper Holder, Letter sign, Wood toy, Ikea Drawer, Wooden Shelves

    This other side is our changing area. I just wanted some selves and a poster. I was looking through the society.6 website and I came across this poster of a family of four and bought it right away. I love line art, I actually have a tattoo of Calvin and I, in this style. I’m ready to get another one that represents the bond that I have with this new baby.

    This is our latest sonogram, baby boy has chubby cheeks and he’s weighing already 6lb and 10oz. I can’t wait to squeeze him and see if he looks anything like his dad.

    These are some shots from our family maternity shoot, I love just how well our photographer captured the room and these moments with Calvin. It’s crazy to think that soon my heart will beat in two little bodies. I’m scared but very excited to live life as a mom of two boys.

    I can’t wait to finally take pictures with the baby in his area and enjoy all of him here in our home.

    Motherhood

    Potty Training a Two-year-old

    It’s been about a week since we started this journey, but we really started back in December. The idea of potty training sounded scary to me. The last thing I wanted was to find poop on my couch and have to clean up watery “accidents”. The first time around was hard because Calvin wasn’t able to really identify when he wanted to go, he didn’t want to wear any undies and would fight us to sit on the potty. Our busy schedules kept us from being consistent and then life hit us and pull up’s seemed easier at the time.  So here we are again, but this time we’re ready!! Here are a few things I found helpful for my 2-year-old.


    Asking for Tips

    As a first-time mom and still learning how to navigate through it, I leaned on my Instagram mamas for some help. I got a lot of tips from different parents and it was very helpful.

    I also read different articles on potty training and looked up a few books. One book I came across was called Oh Crap! Potty Training,

    Many parents suggested it but reading a book was just not something I had time for, but if you love reading definitely check out this book.

    These are some of the articles I found helpful:

    1. Potty Training: How to get started
    2. Potty Training 101

    Methods? – This was on “Today’s Parents” 

    I had no idea there were different methods to potty training. Back in December we definitely were doing the “slow and steady” method. I wasn’t in a rush and I didn’t want to push him if he was still showing signs of not knowing when to go. This second round we definitely aimed for the “three-day method and “rewards.” Calvin showed all the signs of being ready and by day three he was fully going to the bathroom. This method also worked since we’re stuck at home during quarantine.

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    Is he or she ready? 

    Here are a few signs that told me Calvin’s was ready to be potty trained:

    • He started to take off his diaper and was uncomfortable being wet.
    • He would make fascial expressions when he had to pee or poop.
    • He could stay dry for at least two hours and his diapers during nap time were usually dry.
    • He enjoyed watching me sit on the toilet and flushing.
    • He could sometimes tell when he had to pee.

    Potty Training 101 
    Things we did to prepare ourselves for this process:
    •  Creating a habit takes time and sacrifice, we mentally prepared ourselves for adjusting our schedules at home and cleaning up “accidents”.
    • We bought tons of undies of his favorite characters. (This really helped motivate him)
    • The Potty Chart has been the game-changer in this process. You can create one or get one from Pinterest. Kids love stickers and rewards.
    • We were gifted a potty to have around the house but also got a potty seat for the toilet. I think having both is worth it because it can help you identify which one makes your child feel more comfortable. Calvin chooses the potty seat.
    • Setting a timer to remind Calvin every 20-30 mins to use the potty. We did this for the first two days. ( As the days go by, extend the reminder time) 
    • Since we’re not going anywhere, being home has helped train him. I would advise that you stay home three days while potty training your toddler.
    • Be patient and have a celebrating attitude. The accidents can be annoying, especially if they pee two minutes after you asked him or her if they needed to go. ha!
    • Every child is different, some kids can do it in three days and others take a week to be potty trained. Enjoy the process, this is a big milestone for your child.

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    Our Potty Training Day to Day 

    Day 1: Went 5 times to the potty, no poop, no accidents.

    • The day before we read a book on potty training with him. ( Disney Pull Up’s book)
    • Set up the bathroom area with wipes, undies, and hanged “Potty Chart” and stickers.
    • Took him to the bathroom once he got up and changed from Pull up’s to Undies.
    • Introduced him to the chart and wipes.
    • Taught him how to clean himself.
    • Let him choose which undies he wanted to wear throughout the day.
    • Asked him if he wanted to go potty every 30 minutes.
    • I paid attention to his facial and body movements in order to help him identify when he had to go.
    • Celebrated him loudly and many high fives. ( MUST DO!)
    • Got a sticker every time he went to the potty and when he hits the yellow spots he got a cookie. ( This is great for teaching positive reinforcement and also learning he can’t get something every time he does something well.)
    • He had no accidents.
    • Napped and went to bed in Pull up’s.

    Day 2:  Went 4 times to the potty, no poop, 1 accident.

    • Took him to the potty once he got up and changed into undies.
    • Reminded him every 1 hour, this increased the times he told us on his own.
    • He showed a lot more excitement to use the potty.
    • Continue celebrating him together in the bathroom.
    • Got a sticker for each time he went and a cookie on the yellow spot.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 3: Went 6 times, Pooped twice, and 2 accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • Officially says when he has to go pee and poop.
    • Pooped for the first time in the toilet.
    • I continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 4: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Finished the first chart and earn a prize, a monster truck.
    • Napped and went to bed with Pull up’s.

    Day 5: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • Created a second chart, this chart has less yellow spots. ( Teaching him to enjoy going to the potty, not for a treat)
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap and woke up dry.
    • I took him to the bathroom right after nap time.
    • We went for a walk with undies for about 15 mins.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    Day 6: Went 5 times, pooped, and no accidents. 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap time and woke up dry.
    • Took him to the potty right after nap time.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    Day 7: 

    • Same morning routine
    • No reminders, he stated when he had to go.
    • We continued celebrating and giving stickers.
    • Used undies during nap time and woke up dry.
    • Took him to the potty right after nap time.
    • Went to bed with Pull up’ s

    *As you can see, progress was made as the days went by. 

    *The latest update is that he’s been waking up at 4 am to use the bathroom, I heard this is a good sign to removing diapers at night. However, he still has a wet diaper.


    Potty Set Up

    Being consistent with your set up is also key in my opinion. It helps your toddler recognize his or her area and also gives them the independence to go when they want. If you’re using a portable potty, place it somewhere in the house that they can see it. Have some wipes and undies next to it, it might encourage them to go on their own. 

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    Our Set -up: Wipes, Potty seat (should always remain on the toilet), Stool for getting up, and “potty chart” hanging on the wall. 


    Potty Training Items 

    Here are some items I found to be essential for potty training our son. You may find them helpful too if you’re wondering what to get for your toddler during this milestone.

     

    1. Potty Book: We used another book but this book is pretty cute. Many parents recommended reading a “potty” book when starting this process. Also, Youtube has tons of videos. ( Here’s our favorite)
    2. Portable Potty: Many toddlers enjoy portable potty’s and parents find it easier to have around the house instead of running to the bathroom always.
    3. Potty Seat: While other toddlers enjoy the portable potty, some don’t. Calvin didn’t. So the potty seat was perfect for him and it’s way softer on his butt.
    4. Potty Chart: We created our and just filled it with Calvin’s face stickers. You can find on on Pinterest.
    5. Favorite Undies: Calvin is loving “Lighting McQueen” so we got him a few undies or McQueen and his other favorites of “Toy Story.”
    6. Stool: The stool is for helping them sit independently on the toilet. Some toilet potty’s come with steps already attached.
    7. Travel Potty Seat: These are definitely needed when traveling with a toddler elsewhere. If your boy toddler can pee standing up, no need but may need it to poop. Need a potty seat for a road trip? Here’s one.

    Out and about with a potty training toddler? 

    • Pack extra clothes and undies.
    • Bring your travel potty seat.
    • Use the potty as soon as you get to where you have to go.
    • Be patient with the accidents.