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    Motherhood, Pregnancy

    Transforming a Bronx Bedroom into your dream Nursery

    As I prepare to celebrate Calvin’s 3rd birthday this Wednesday, I can’t help but remember what the days looked like leading up to his birth. Our one-bedroom Bronx apartment was a small and mess, we also had celebrated our baby shower days before giving birth. Everything was everywhere! The crib wasn’t built and whatever vision I had in mind for a nursery quickly faded for two reasons, Calvin was seven weeks early and our apartment was way too small to dream big.

    Photographer: https://www.instagram.com/bee.serene/

    This second time around being blessed with a full-term pregnancy and also spending a lot of time at home, I let my heart guide my creativity. If there’s one thing I’ve been fighting off these last few months, it’s been discouragement of any kind.

    After losing one of our best friends, I entered into a place of mourning and I found myself needing an escape. So I began looking for inspiration on nursery’s and a painted sun caught my attention. It warmed my heart and was a sweet reminder of the ray of sunshine our friend Ada was. I haven’t been able to fully connect with our second son and transforming our bedroom gave me a chance to connect with him. The details of this nursery have brought my heart so much joy and hope. I’m sure my son will display it.

    Room Details: Baby moblie, DockaTOT, Babyletto Crib,

    Here is the reveal of our small section nursery. Although we live in a two-bedroom, we wanted the baby to stay with us. So we got some paint and divided a small space of it so it’s just for the baby. I also want to encourage any mama that is a one-bedroom apartment. Please don’t let your bedroom discourage you from being creative with your space. I hear so many stories of mamas feeling guilty over not having a “perfect nursery” or a spare room for their baby, I want you to know your baby doesn’t care about that. You are their first home and nursery.

    Details: Wood Camera, Hamilton Frame, Acrylic Floating Wall 

    I picked out pieces for the baby that I love. I love taking pictures and Hamilton. My favorite song is ” Dear Theodosia”, I dedicated that song to Calvin before he was born. I had my husband print some of the lyrics on these wooden frames from Society.6, I hope to read them to the boys one day.

    Details: New York Banner, Wall Wooden Rack, Acrylic Shelf

    Room Details: Rocking Chair, Diaper Pail,

    Room Detail: Cube Storage, Fawn Design Bag, Curtain’s

    I love everything about this section. I wanted the colors to go with the ones we’re using for Calvin’s big boy room. We’re reusing the crib we got for Calvin, it’s really cute and it’s held on for three years. This time around we will be using cube storage bins to store the baby’s clothes. We wanted to save money and we honestly don’t need much storage for the baby. The most expensive piece we got was the rocking chair. I would never pay what I did for this chair, but it’s so comfy and eventually, we want it for our living room.

    Details: Family Poster, Wood Hanger

    Room Detail: Gathre Changing Pad, Wipes & Diaper Holder, Letter sign, Wood toy, Ikea Drawer, Wooden Shelves

    This other side is our changing area. I just wanted some selves and a poster. I was looking through the society.6 website and I came across this poster of a family of four and bought it right away. I love line art, I actually have a tattoo of Calvin and I, in this style. I’m ready to get another one that represents the bond that I have with this new baby.

    This is our latest sonogram, baby boy has chubby cheeks and he’s weighing already 6lb and 10oz. I can’t wait to squeeze him and see if he looks anything like his dad.

    These are some shots from our family maternity shoot, I love just how well our photographer captured the room and these moments with Calvin. It’s crazy to think that soon my heart will beat in two little bodies. I’m scared but very excited to live life as a mom of two boys.

    I can’t wait to finally take pictures with the baby in his area and enjoy all of him here in our home.

    Mental Health, Motherhood

    Take a Moment Mama

    Between preparing for labor or getting the kids ready to start remote learning/ school, it can feel like each minute of your time is occupied with something else other than just you. The quiet moments that we desire often seem hard to find and the plan you made to catch a breath outside has become the last thing on your list; since it takes almost forever to leave the house with any child.

    However taking a moment looks like for you, just take time to take it. I know it often seems impossible but it’s so necessary. Taking a moment for you doesn’t mean you have to leave the kids behind, you may just consider your self-care time a time where you just hang with the kids, soaking up all of them. 

    So here are a few tips for taking a moment: 

    – Breathe, before you pick up your phone or check off the first task on your to-do list… time a few mins to be in silence. 

    – Plan a time in the day or week where you focus on one thing that brings you joy. 

    -Remember to slow down, what will get done… will get done. 

    – Ask for help, how can someone else help you this week ? 

    – When the kids are in bed and the house is quiet… stop scrolling. Netflix has tons of great shows. 

    – Take a moment to remember just how beautiful and spectacular you are. You kill it everyday without a break.


    Book Recommendation

    If you’re a new mom… nope if you’re a mom I would recommend you get this book. I got it about a year ago and it always encourages and helps me understand some of my thoughts as a mom. Being a mom can feel overwhelming sometimes and it’s okay to say that out loud. I feel like sometimes we feel so much shame for thinking half of the things we think about. During my postpartum, I struggled a lot with feeling joy in being a mom and I was very anxious all the time about something happening to my son. I often wished I would have voiced half of the things I was thinking without feeling like someone would judge me. In this book, you’ll find all those thoughts you hide from other moms but also the ones you feel scared about saying out loud to yourself. Remember you were you before being a mom, think of who you were, and take care of her.

    Kids Activites

    Lava You (DIY)

    It’s been a tough week for our family and being a parent during this time has been difficult. The hardest part about mourning as a parent is also having to be emotionally and physically present for your child. Calvin reminds me that life continues to happen no matter how much I want to stop time. So in the mist of sadness and grief we did a this DIY Lava Lamp. He was so amazed and loved it, we know our dearest Tia Ada would have loved watching videos of this.

    Items needed for this DIY:

    Cooking Oil , Water, Food Coloring & Alka Seltzer Tablets

    Added half the cup with water and oil, then added some food coloring drops. Calvin choose the color blue.

    After I had him put the pieces of seltzer in the cup, I’ve enjoyed having him help during these projects. I’ve been using it as a time to practice active listening.

    The bubbling was really amazing to see! He loved it!

    This experiment is pretty quick and easy, so I would say doing at least three jars at a time. You definitely need lots of oil and consider using taller plain water bottles. It’s perfect for a toddler and great for building conversations.

    Some questions I asked him and things I had him identify as we did the lava lamp:

    What is the oil? , what is the water?, what colors do you see on the table ?, what color is the water turning?, what color is the seltzer tablet?, what is happening now that we put the seltzer inside?

    If you’ve done this DIY before let me know how your kiddo love it or what you did differently.

    Kids Activites

    Pinterest Fun (Making fluffy Slime)

    I’m not a crafty mom, I love crafts but kid crafts can be a little messy for me! Does ANY mama feel me? This quarantine has taught me a lot about using my imagination and finding activities to do with Calvin while we’re stuck at home. Every week I’ve been trying to do at least two Pinterest sensory/ toddler activities. Some have been a failure, but some have been amazing. I had a few mamas ask about today’s activity and since I documented today’s fun, I decided to share it here.

    Today’s Pinterest activity was making “fluffy slime”. I’ve never made slime before and until recently Calvin has been fascinated with playing with different textures. He usually dislikes things on his hands but he’s been adventuring his hand motor skills. These activities have been so great for our bonding time and also challenging because it requires I have a lot of patience and little control. Allowing toddlers to freely play is so important for their development, but if you’re anything like me it’s definitely hard to accept. He’s in a “helper” stage and constantly asking to help around and do things on his own. During our activities, I try to give him the freedom to do so even if he makes a mess.

    Below you will find the recipe for creating your own “fluffy slime”. Enjoy!

    Fluffy Slime Ingredients

    Foam shaving cream

    Elmer’s Glue – 4oz bottle

    Food coloring or Watered down paint

    Baking Soda

    Saline Solution

    We poured the 4 oz or glue into a clear bowl.
    We added 1/4 cup of paint water
    & 1/2 cups of shaving cream
    Added 1 teaspoon of baking Soda, 1 table spoon of Saline Solution. Apply more Saline to get the texture you want.
    And you mix, mix, mix! He loved getting to do this part.
    At first it may feel a little slimy but it continues getting thicker as you stir.
    Watching him explore the slime was my favorite part.
    This is the end product! So dope!

    He loved getting to do this activity and I was so amazed that he played so much with the slime. I definitely want to create more colors with him and put them together. Hope you enjoy creating some slime with your kiddo!